If you have /steps, do you think that YOUR relationship is a good model for them? Is your ex's? I have pondered this a lot, as one of the reasons I left my ex was because I hated the lessons we were teaching our young children about men, women, and relationships. Ex remarried quite quickly. He and his wife seem to have a happy enough marriage, although none of our mutual friends see it working out in the long run. I HAVE to root for them to work out in the long run, though, and I do see that ex seems to have made some big, big changes. I hope it continues to work. I fear, though, that their relationship is built a little too much on he as the big thinker/intellectual and she as the glamorous, somewhat passive wife. BF and I are, I think, giving a good example. We are respectful, cooperative, and argue fairly. Disagreements (which are rare, frankly) get resolved quickly and quietly, with neither side feeling taken advantage of (I believe). One place we do fall down, I think, is that BF is not as "family friendly" as I would like to see, but that is coming along at its own pace. In my old relationship, I was more passive and, frankly, cowed by the ex. I had to pretend to be something I wasn't, and he ALWAYS got his way. So: how bout you? Are you and your so modeling what you think is a good, healthy relationship? Would you be happy if your were in a relationship like yours?