You should find many GLBT resources in Eugene When I lived in Eugene (xs-xs) there was a thriving queer community, and there likely still is. There should be GLBT resources at the University at least, and maybe at LCC too, so those would be good places to start. Lots of cool counselors and therapists in Eugene, too. If there is still a gay paper (used to be the "Lavendar Network"...?) you could check for support groups, activities, etc. PDX's "Just OUt" might even list stuff for Eugene, not sure. Also, Google is your friend. And just so you know, the responses you'll get in here depend as much on the day and what mood everyone's in as they do on your original post. Here's the short version of my coming-out story: I was always gay (tomboy, hated dolls and dresses, had a huge crush on my xth grade classmate who looked just like Kristy McNichol) ) and once I realized, at age x, that kissing women was not some far-flung dream, I was off and running. There were no visibly or out gay people in my neighborhood growing up, so it took a while, but it did take. Now I am happily gayer than gay.