What Broke Your Marriage Down? All the damn variables? Money? Sex? ALL of the above AND In the end- did you want the same thing in life or not (at the end of the day)?

If you really want to know -Complaining all the time. Not necessarily about me. Just a very depressing person to be around. -No sex.

Money, Sex, Different Family values- He was in and out of jobs for stealing all the time. I held out on sex because I was resentful. I'm just realizing that he is not even good enough for his own standards. Which is why he continues to lie, cheat and steal. How can you live in your own skin if you're not even good enough for yourself?

In a nutshell... - His alcoholism - His bipolar disorder (and refusal to seek treatment) - His complete lack of ambition - His jealousy of my career advancement - My desire to actually HAVE a life as opposed to sitting on the couch every single night. At the end, we wanted very different things. Not necessarily monetary but I wanted to grow and advance in life. Have friends and experiences and enjoy myself (with him at first. I tried to include him in everything and he just got drunk and puked on our friends and set off hotel fire alarms at 2:30 in the morning...) He wanted to stay in his dead end $10/hr job and watch tv. And that was it. There's way more but that's the basic jist of it.

i couldnt handle being married to an airhead

serious incompatability emotional abuse & alcoholism. In the end, I just want someone who will love me for me and not try to change me.

age difference I could, of course, blame it on more immediate things like the fact that he was VERY popular with the ladies who didn't leave a stone unturned to get his attention, but at the end of the day, it was our age difference which made us incompatible. He was 14 years older than me (40/26) and at a very different point in his life. He wanted , picket fence and the whol nine when I had just gotten out of college and was eager to wet my toes in the corporate world. We had talked about it before our wedding, and he did say at the time he didn't want a family but that was then.... things changed once we had settled into married life, and he was just hoping I'd pull along.

Wow. Interesting. Thanx 4 sharing

a few things Breakdown of communication. Trust. (lack of) Money issues. She was never home except to sleep. She was also influenced by divorced friends. I'm no saint either, but she bailed out on me when my back was turned. She led me to believe that there was a chance of reconciliation, but stabbed me in the back at the last moment.

Wow. That breakdown of communication I swear to god- that is key. Once you see that slip, and I literally w/ my own two eyes in my marriage, watch him just tune me completely out. LOL. But it is true- the communication is what I think the whole sha-bang- once that goes, well, you can kiss goodbye whatever is left, right? LOL

A long list of crap Money issues: I'm thrifty and a saver, he wanted to eat out every meal and spend, spend, spend. Responsibility issues: Couldn't pay bills or do ANYTHING Sexual issues: I was too easily hurt and wouldn't want sex for days after fights. He would me a bitch, then demand sex x minutes later. (We were both wrong there.) Trust: he cheated and lied constantly Location: for our careers, he needed to be in NY, I needed to be in SF. He won, so my career suffered, and I was pissed. Socialization: I was happy going out x-x times per week, he wanted to go out every night and could do x-x different activities each day of the weekend and not get bored. Basiy we never had any down time as a couple. Lifestyle: I wanted , he wanted to keep living the college lifestyle for another x years. My god, I don't know how we even stayed married for x years like that! At the end of the day, he says he wants what I want, just later, but I'm not sticking around with someone who cheats on me and goes to the bar every night to see if that's really true. We'll never know.

We're late x's

Loss of trust, faith, respect then finally love When those things go, it's over. If he opened his mouth, it was x.x% LIE and almost never true. If he said he was going to be at work, odds were he was over his female co-workers house fucking her brains out and taking care of her while ours did without. He stopped paying bills, balancing his checkbook, going to work, eating at home, being with family -- Christmas day he told the and I that his best friend (a male -- not the slut whore) was moving and walked out on Christmas dinner to "help a friend". Helping his friends was WAY more important than doing ANYTHING at ALL for his flesh and blood children or me, his WIFE of x years. I lost all respect for him. It wasn't that he wanted to "help people" or be a "nice guy" he wanted to RUN AWAY from his responsibility and family and he used this as a way to do it and seem like he was the one who was all that and we were selfish and crazy. Finally, one day I looked at this stranger I married and thought, I do not love you -- hell, I don't even REMOTELY LIKE YOU. Then I filed for divorce. The end....of my marriage to the turd.

Yeah- you are free!!!

except for all that pesky emotional damage and a

a knife between my eyes... ...after something like that you can't get the trust back.